She Wants to Get Really Kinky. Should I?

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Question: My wife told me she wants to try something different in our sex life. She acted like she was joking and suggested she use a "strap-on". We have tried anal sex before, but she thought it would be exciting if she was the giver for once. I'm not really comfortable with this idea, but do want to have a more exciting sex life.

Can you give me some ideas of things to do that don't involve degrading myself as a man, but still give her the pleasure of being the dominant one? I would go along with her idea, but I'm worried that if anyone found out they'd think I was a freak. What should I do?

Answers:
Ms. Mystery: Either you are turned on by your wife's idea or your aren't. Maybe you're unsure, but would be excited about the idea only after you're already very "turned on." If you aren't sure this is what you want then do something else. Perhaps you'd both like it if she ties you up? This give her the control

she wants. And you can tell her you want to do just that - no strap on (for now).

I'm wondering why you are worried about someone finding out, however. Don't you trust her?

Mr. Know:  Do want to do it or not? Seems like you're more concerned about someone finding out. Unless you or your wife tell someone, no one will find out. I can tell you that I wouldn't do it, it's just too weird for me personally, but to each his own. In regards to doing other activities... Dude! There's so much porn on the internet, I'm sure that you and your wife can sit down together, surf the net and agree on some activity.